Ok, um....helllooo ??

Living in NY, I have heard ALL types of differences that allegedly exist between women from the North and women from the South. Most, if not all, of THE GIRLS are from the Southern States of the US, so we share similar values on manners, dating etiquette, lifestyle choices, etc. One of the biggest differences most men speak of is the audacity level of women from the North. According to most men in the Tri-State area, women from the North are very audacious when it comes to approaching men. I have also heard that these women are downright predatorial when it comes to seeing and approaching a man that they may deem interesting.

I BEG TO DIFFER !!!

We Southern women are just as bold when it comes to approaching a man we deem handsome, however, we tend to do it in a less threatening manner....hmmm, on second thought.... Here are some real life examples:

a) At a bar in Brooklyn, a highly fashionable sister spots a tall, dark and handsome brother from across the room. She immediately inquires about him from a mutual friend, takes a swig of her a drink and approaches said stranger ....BY SITTING ON HIS LAP and starting a conversation !! They have been dating exclusively for 1.5 years.

b) A sasssy and life of the party sister spots a tall guy on the other side of an outdoor festival. She says to her girlfriends...hmmmm...I see something I like ! She makes her way over to said gentleman and says something that makes him smile...she doesn't remember because she was intoxicated, but not for nothing, they are going on a date this week.

c) A flirty sister has a crush on an unsuspecting co-worker. He is older, refined and interesting. She decides to put all of her cards on the table about said crush and sends him an email inviting him to lunch and detailing her lack of patience and prescription to pain medicines. She just had her wisdom teeth pulled. Well...said crush ambigously declines the lunch with some lame excuse, but hey....she put it out there.

I can honestly say that I am no longer opposed to approaching men. Given the state of affairs of dating in NY and beyond, and the realization that some dudes are just plain terrified when it comes to approaching a woman, a little assistance does not hurt. A smile here, a wink of an eye there, an accidental brush up against an arm, a compliment as well, are all highly appropriate ways of getting a man's attention.

I say put it out there and if he doesn't respond to said advance....well...then honey....he's GAY !!!!