I recently had a conversation with one of The Girls about, of course, men and relationships. We were conversing about how men have asked us on numerous occasions, "How do I know if you really like me ?" I remember one guy telling me, "You know, I am pretty good at reading women. Like, I know immediately if a woman is feeling me, what area I want to place her in my life....but, er uh...I am having a hard time pegging you. Like, how do I even know if you like me ? You are so hard to read."
I cleared my throat, and oh so matter of factly stated: "If you call me and I answer the phone, I like you. If you call me and I do NOT answer the phone, and/or I don't return your phone call...ever, chances are I do NOT like you."
He seemed perplexed by the notion of it being that simple.
Some of The Girls express their "like" for a man in many ways. They may cook for him, send him notes, baby sit his kids or buy him a bottle of Hennessy on a Friday night. You know, different strokes for different folks.
WHATSONEVAH.... the SHO FIYAH way of knowing that a chick is NOT feeling you now...or EVER... is if she tells one of her girls how horribly WACK you and your sex is. I repeat, if a woman tells her girls that your sex, head game and/or penis size is wiggity...you can forget it...for life.
Now, The Girls talk about sex all of the time. We talk about the good sex, the bad sex, birth control, toys, etc. However, we know when one of The Girls is really feeling a dude, because she doesn't give up any details about his skills in the bedroom. There may be an initial, "Girrrllll...I couldn't wait 90 days...I gave it to him in 60, and the shit was pretty nice." If she gives any additional details after that, GUARANTEED she don't want him.
Goofy Girl once said to me, "You know...I always knew you really liked that dude because you NEVER said anything about how he got down in the bedroom, and you ALWAYS tell me everything." And she was right. If you got something special going on, you ain't trying to tell no other heffa !!!
On the other hand, when a woman is done...seriously done with a dude, albeit the first time getting down or after five (5) years of him being your dick in a glass, ex-boyfriend or whatever, as soon as she utters any of the following statements, we pretty much know that it's a wrap for you.
1) Girl, I could have had a V8.
2) Girl, anti-climatic is his name. I turned over and tooted my booty up just to get it over with.
3) Girl, he is the size of my pinky...and I ain't exaggerating.
4) Girl, I told that nigga I was on my cycle...JUST so he wouldn't try me with that weak shit again.
5) Girl.... I am only keeping him around because he has good conversation, but I just CAN'T fake the horrible sex any more.
and my all time favorite
6) Girl, he had the nerve to ask me if I told all of my girls that he gave me head. I told him, "That horrible shit ??? I wouldn't dare speak of something so horrendous...."
In some instances, there may be a female or two who may just be jilted or upset by a guy and using the preceding statements to attempt to save face. But, nah..... these days, sex comes every blue moon for most of The Girls. Let me tell you, in our 30's we ain't sexing it up like we were in college and our early 20's. There is too much to lose now (like our sanity), too much to gain as well (like a baby).
So what's your point Party Girl ?
If a lady truly likes you, respects you and appreciates you, the intimate details of your relationship will not be divulged. However....hell, ya'll know. Ya'll do the same shit.
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