I Spy .....

The age old question for most women of good character....eh hmm...most !

I am guilty of it. Most of THE GIRLS are guilty of it as well. When that gut feeling kicks in, the woman's intuition is flowing, what's the best way of getting confirmation on something ?

GO THROUGH HIS SHIT !!!!!

Now, I have had several boyfriends whose personal items I did not touch. The phone would be sitting right next to me buzzing, and I never touched it. I would have the passwords to email addresses, and I never checked it. Why you may ask ? Because (i) I really did not want to violate their privacy because I cared about them and (ii) I didn't want to find anything out that would hurt my feelings. HOWEVER, when said boyfriends gave me a reason to snoop....you BEST BELIEVE I went through phones, email addresses, drawers, caller ID logs, etc. I found exactly what I was looking for too. HEARTBREAK !!!

I was just having a conversation with one of THE GIRLS who is notorious for going through a man's things....unapologetically. I recently inquired about her out of town boo and she responded, "Oh...he ain't talking to me right now. Clearly pissy cause I told him I went through his phone." WORD ??? YOU TOLD HIM ??

She responded, "Listen, it's too far in the game right now for me to be putting all of this energy into a relationship and he is not of the same mindset. I needed to know." I wondered if she in fact found anything that contradicted the stance that he took in their relationship. She found some text messages to some woman. She found them to be inappropriate, he found them to be harmless.

Needless to say, he was none-the-pleased. He has called her everything from "childish" to a "violator". She says she has apoplogized enough...but would do it again in a heartbeat.

This subject gets various reviews from THE GIRLS. Some are adamant about snooping, some think it's repulsive. Some rely on a woman's intuition and look for direct evidence to confirm their suspicions, some rely on a woman's intuition and just ask. To each his own. Whatever you decide to do, be prepared for the answer !

Now, where is my magnifying glass ??