I'll Trade You ....

I recently went to a Masquerade Ball held to raise funds for a non-profit organization with THE GIRLS. We were so cute, I can't even front. So, I did what I normally do. I took pictures and forwarded them to the masses. Might as well share the pretty right ?

I received an email from one of my sorority sisters the next day that stated, "You know I live vicariously through your pictures." I swiftly responded, "...and you know I live vicariously through your pictures of your precious little baby and loving husband." She responds, "awwww....we just gave each other 'the grass is greener hugs via email'. EXACTLY !!!!!

I can't tell you how many times I have had this discussion with my friends who are either married, have children or are both married with children. They think I am in NY living La Vida Loca. Well, based on the stories I relay to them, I can see why they think that. I can't lie, I live a great life. Despite this recession thing going on, and this massive transition in my life, I have great friends and I always see to it that we have a great time. We can get up and go as we please, we have no one to check in with. Diapers ? Who's buying those ? Husbands ? Who has to cook for them ? WE DON'T !!!!

But quiet as kept, I don't know not a nann one of THE GIRLS who does not yearn for that time to come. We all want to be married and have children, but in the meantime...we figure we might as well have impromptu dinner parties, dance on couches and do shots of Patron until that day arrives.

I have officially become the self-proclaimed, "Auntie of all Aunties". I even have an "Auntie Team" circa Kanye West's Roses record. If we are remotely cool, your baby is my niece or nephew and I have full reign to mush him or her whenever I feel like it. I can demand pics, and hog all of the hugs and kisses when I come into town. I now understand why my Aunt's used to always mush me. I was a cute fat baby that they could steal hugs from and hand right back to my mother when they were finished. A single girl needs these maternal suppression dates with the babies !! "Ah yes, I mushed the baby, now I can go home and sleep" :)

I don't think we single gals really understand how hard it is for our friends with children and husbands. I know for a fact they put on brave faces, the same ones we give when asked for the 100th time, "soooo...when are you going to settle down and make some babies ?" (sidebar: my response to this question is ALWAYS, "Don't ask me, ask God") I recently went to visit one of THE GIRLS who lives down south. She is the mother of a one year old who is the cutest, busiest little person I have ever seen. I know it has to be hard on her, but she never complains. She has this thing down to a science too. Getting the baby in the car seat, getting him out and into the stroller, getting the baby dressed in the morning. I can hardly get myself up and dressed, let alone another person. We took a trip to Walmart and while she was putting the baby in the car seat, I loaded everything into the car. When she turned around and saw that she didn't have to do it she was like, "man...you move fast...thanks !!" When we got back to her house, she unloads the baby and I get all the bags to take them in the house. She then says to me, "I know I joke a lot about telling you to marry Beyonce and not a man because men don't help out, but MAN.... women get stuff done...thanks for taking all of that in." I find this particularly funny because I am watching Oprah now and she just stated, "all mothers NEED a wife !!" If Oprah said it, then it must be gospel.

Like I stated earlier, I have a great time as a single woman with no children. I can still be a little selfish, and I appreciate this extra space. However, I can't help but look over my fence into the yard of my married friends and friends with children thinking the grass in greener. But who knew they were right there on the other side of the fence looking over at my yard too ??

Wanna trade ??